People do the best with what they have. If the toolbox only contains a certain set of tools then it would only be able to fix the problems meant for those tools. Acquiring and developing new tools takes time, patience, failure and practice. To expect someone to understand you, do the 'right' thing, know what to do automatically, can be something they cannot be capable of achieving. We often feel bitterness, resentment and anger towards that person for not conforming to our expectations or the 'norm' of what people should behave like. "If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own" The Alchemist. This quote from the book The Alchemist rings very true. It's easy to cast judgment on others, it's harder to figure out why we are doing it. To forgive is to let go of all those labels, expectations or ideas you held about that person. You look at them with a new light, they don't affect you anymore and they become whoever they want to be, and that is ok.
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